I have a difficult family situation

How do I protect children from a previous relationship?

Blended families need careful planning — default rules may not protect everyone.

If you have children from a previous relationship and a current partner, the standard approach (“everything to my spouse”) might leave your children with nothing.

The risk: If you leave everything to your partner, they control what happens next. When they die, their will decides where it goes — and your children may not be included.

Common strategies:

Life interest: Your partner can live in the house or receive income, but the asset passes to your children when they die.

Direct gifts: Leave specific assets or amounts directly to your children, with the rest to your partner.

Testamentary trust: Assets are held in trust with rules about who benefits and when.

What to discuss with your partner:

  • What do your children need?
  • What does your partner need?
  • What happens if your partner remarries?

The hard truth: Without explicit planning, blended families often end up in court. Your will is the only way to protect children from a previous relationship.